Forgiveness / Blame

The person in denial of his or her own condition continues to ask for more of what didn't help the last time around.

If you're tired of being a slave to a painful relationship out of your past, this study in how to release resentments is sure to bring welcome relief. Unconscious conflicts, in dialogue form, play themselves out in our mind by painfully reenacting various scenes from our past; moments gone by in which we either know, or sense, we were compromised by our own weakness. If these inner dialogue...

You have within you something that is quite capable of knowing what is good for you and what is not. And although presently it is necessary that you learn new knowledge and find a true source of guidance, ultimately you do not need books or teachers to know from yourself what is true about you. There is something that lives within you that will never harm itself or another human being. When y...

Most of us are certain that the reason we are upset in any given situation is because of what someone else has done or not done. In general, our day-to-day interactions with other human beings are tainted with some kind of conflict, whether it is in the form of an outwardly expressed war or an inwardly suppressed resentment. There is a passage in scripture that says, "Physician, heal thyself.

We are made to be self-correcting, so that each real correction effected in us elevates us above the dark and limiting influences we have been living under all our lives. Like moving from a hot desert to a cool mountain retreat, each discovery of what darkens our path in life moves us toward higher, happier ground. And though we may not yet understand how this works in us, each time we catch a...

Every human being on this planet is created to love something. The problem is that, for the vast majority of us, the part of us intended to love something was crushed right out of the gate. That part of us was crushed by the idea that "I must become something special", which requires that I must get all stirred up to do something that I have no love for. We have parts of us that demand that we...

What's the difference between blaming someone else for the way you feel, and blaming yourself for something that you have done? There is no difference; they are both essentially the same. So what do blaming others and blaming yourself share in common? They are both an avoidance. We blame others for our negative states so that we don't have to do anything other than see the source of our suffe...

A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we'll be paying for in the days ahead. Disconcerting, yes; but there's no denying it: there are unconscious parts of us that feel good about getting us to do wrong! Whenever we...

When events do not go according to our expectations, we often light ourselves on fire with anger, blaming life for not having fulfilled our expectations. Then the mind will say, "That's it. I have figured it out. I will live the rest of my life without any expectations." But this one-sided mind does not see that thought as being an expectation in itself. Setting the expectation to have no fut...

It is impossible to change the relationship that you have with the world around you without changing the relationship that you have in yourself, with yourself. This is the secret teaching of the ages, including being the root of Christ's teaching, as it directly relates to the necessity of a new mind. Our task, if we want to be free human beings -- if we want a life in which we no longer...

There is no blade of grass ... no flower petal ... no moment that is the same. Everything in Reality, both visible and invisible, is unique. This holds true for human beings as well. No other person is capable of expressing what can only be expressed by you -- by who you really are. The world cannot realize its full potential as long as human beings refuse to explore the interior world. Today...

If we wish to live without resentments that linger in our hearts and rid ourselves of fear with all of its debilitating limitations, we must shed the skin of our selfishness. We must learn what it means to consciously suffer ourselves without complaint and have compassion even toward those with whom we disagree. If we want to realize the higher level of Self that reveals the need for further...