In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how grief over the death of a loved one will complete itself and become something else if we will not resist the experience and allow it to be what it is.

How to heal from grief after losing a loved one, and use our suffering for its intended purpose, is answered in this insightful video. When an aspirant asks Guy Finley how to heal from grief after losing his wife, Guy explains the difference between the natural pain of loss versus unconsciously revisiting the past which only ensures our continued suffering.

"Letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how real humility appears within us when we see the role that we have played in making life more difficult for ourselves and for everyone else around us.

Guy Finley talks about the necessary, healing shock of seeing that the things we value the most in our lives are impermanent at best... and yet it is this very revelation of impermanence that is the doorway to a true change in our values.

No one likes to be told what to do. The odds are, if someone tells us what to do, we are not going to do it. This is how most human beings behave. But we are intended to outgrow this stubborn, prideful nature that will not consider anything higher than its current view. If we are encouraged to do something that is good for us, what is it within us that refuses? The answer is that it must be so...

Our spirit is not meant to sink. At any given moment, we can tell what we are living from by the way we see the world around us. We are not meant to live with a heavy heart, but at present we do not know what else to do. There is no denying the fact that, at times, life can weigh heavily upon our hearts and minds, but we can remain aware of the heaviness instead of consenting to live under it.

You'll never climb out of the hole you find yourself in. Real Life has no holes to fall into. Every hole is a self-produced hole. Your mind actually builds the hole, then looks at it and says, "How did I get in here?" This means that if you find yourself in a hole and then struggle to climb out, the only thing you'll succeed at doing is digging the hole deeper. Thinking about the hole you'...