In this Q&A Guy Finley explains that what we really fear being judged is what we have imagined ourselves to be and what we then think we need to do to protect what we've imagined.

In this short talk, self-realization author Guy Finley talks about the benefits of a quiet mind, which includes the recognition and letting go of the pain that is inherent in the mind's judgment of both yourself and other people.

In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains that self-judgment cannot exist without an image of ourselves that we hold onto. To see this fact is the beginning of the end of painful judgment of both yourself and others.

Spiritually speaking, all relationships serve one purpose: self-knowledge. And self-knowledge, in turn, serves a single purpose: discovering the truth of oneself: an inner awakening that serves still a higher purpose: rebirth...the reconciliation, and fulfillment of all relationships.

Classroom Talk: 4/19/2023 - The less we try to "teach" others about their shortcomings, the more insight we gain into our own.

Classroom Talk: 4/12/2023 - A great spiritual mystery: self-liberation is either found within what we're given to see, or not at all; the only thing we escape when running from any unwanted realization is the possibility of discovering its Divine purpose... whose revelation is the same as transforming and transcending it.

Classroom Talk: 1/25/2023 - Nothing makes us more common and unkind -- more like everyone else we judge -- than identifying with familiar painful negative reactions that seem to prove we're somehow different, superior to those whose character we hold in contempt.

Classroom Talk: 1/18/2023 - Until we understand that the revelation of some undesirable quality in our consciousness is not an accusation, but a Divine invitation to realize and transcend that unconscious character... we will continue clinging to the false belief that judging ourselves proves we are superior to what we judge.

Classroom Talk: 4/20/2022 - No one is free who has an ax to grind with any other person, let alone who grind themselves down with painful self-judgment believing, in vain, that self-punishment is somehow connected to self-perfection.

Classroom Talk: 11/25/2020 - It takes us less than a second to tell someone, "I love you," but a lifetime or more to learn not just what it really means...but what we must give up -- of ourselves -- in order to be able to do so.

Classroom Talk: 9/30/2020 - The judgment of anyone or anything is never a conclusion to the conflicted condition in question, far from it: all forms of judging someone, or something amount to an unseen continuation of the relationship being judged.

Classroom Talk: 8/19/2020 - All negative reactions are a pre-determined judgment of any moment found "guilty as charged" for our painful experience of it; they are a false conclusion reached in the dark of us by an unconscious nature that -- by judging the moment -- creates the illusion that it has nothing in common with what it has just judged.