How do I help someone in pain? "To support and help someone in pain, the first true thing is always action, not words." Guy Finley explains how working on your own mindfulness and self-awareness can educate you before you give advice to a friend in pain.

Most of us carry, buried in the depths of ourselves, untold amounts of unconscious woe. Regardless of our religion, skin color, social position, or cultural conditioning, psychological pain plays no favorites... and we all pay the price of the ensuing blame game.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that a genuine resolution to psychological pain will never be found within the very system that produces the pain in the first place. Awareness of this fact is the answer that you're looking for.

When we have moments where someone or something does what is upsetting to us, we look out and see a world that is out of order, do we not? And the pain we are experiencing in that moment cannot be separated from our perception that this person, this thing is wrong and out of order.

Anxiety is torment. But we never suspect that the mind that is anxious is anxious because it is trying to bring an end to its own pain... and it can't, because there is no peace in the world of a mind set against itself. The problem is that we are born into a world where, within a very short time, we each have our own inner "personal attendant." This attendant has two things in its hands...

Many of us have come to believe that being a good performer in life is somehow the same as fulfilling the purpose of life. Here's the strange logic behind the self-created misery that follows it: For each successful "performance" we pull off around others or within ourselves, it feels as if we've won, for the moment, what we've imagined will make us whole and happy -- but the drawback here...

Everything under the sun wants to be loved. Trees reach up for the sunlight that brings them life. Flowers need the touch of the bees that pollinate them. Babies cry out to be nourished and protected. We can state this same celestial principle in different words: Everything in existence seeks what it needs to complete itself... and this includes negative states like anger, resentment...

Here is a simple, straightforward inner exercise to help you put these new secrets to work in your life, and with this, to transform the foundations of your world.

In this short talk, best-selling "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about the spiritual need to become aware of the deceptive parts of us that claim to protect us from harm, but in reality do nothing but put us in harm's way.

In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how real freedom is finally found when we are willing to go through the pain of doing what is right.

In this short audio clip, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how becoming conscious of ourselves in the right way comes with a necessary kind of growing pain that happens when we begin to separate ourselves from the lower self that we have falsely taken ourselves to be.

The following key lessons are taken from 365 Days to Let Go. Use their insights to awaken the higher understanding that allows you to transcend the level of self that gives rise to your pain. *** We are created with the tools it takes to master our own lives. But self-mastery remains the ultimate mystery until that day dawns when -- weary of struggling to overcome what we blame...