When you know what it means to be in relationship with Goodness, you never feel bad. Unhappiness, anger, fear, anxiety -- negative states -- cannot make a home in you when you know what it means to be in relationship with what is Good.
If we understand this properly, it strips away all of the justification we have for being unpleasant. Our work is as simple as this: to see and to be what we are before we speak or act. If we were to see and be what we are when we're all caught up in anxiety, that would be the end of the anxiety. We couldn't be convinced to figure out what to do about the worry or to rush somewhere to bring an end to the anxiety.
Only when you see yourself at the same time that you see what you're looking at, do you see truly. Our true self is not a situation outside of us, where -- as we presently are -- we are moved by events that take place. Nor is our true self inside of us, where we are taken over and tyrannized by our own conditioned responses to life. Real self is a balanced position that allows us to appreciate and understand, all at once, that who we really are is that which sees our self at the same time that we're looking at whatever we're looking at.
Until we learn what it means to see ourselves as we're looking at someone or something, we are not seeing reality at all. Something in us is seeing an opposite -- something that it needs to see to be a friend or an enemy, to pursue or to flee.
As an example, when we are anxious, when there's a pressing desire, we don't see the fact that the state has occupied us and is trying to reconcile itself through what it pushes us to acquire. If we could look at something we want, and at the same moment we feel that pressing anxiety, the push to acquire it, we could use these same eyes for a mirror to be able to see the nature that wants to acquire, we would in that instant know that we are in relationship with something that is not right for us, that cares nothing for anyone or anything else, only to get what it wants. The discovery, the awareness of that, is the nullification of the anxiety.
This isn't something that you choose to do. You don't have to try to be good. Goodness itself produces it with the simultaneous glimpse of these opposites, which only your awareness can do.
Do the best you can to see yourself as you go through your day. The task is to first be aware of yourself, and be aware of others at the same time. This is practical, down to earth spiritual work, so that there is no mistaking the difference between wanting to feel good about where we are and what we have vs. being in the Goodness that is always where we are and allowing it to live our lives for us as we are there.