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In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley explains that what we don't like about other people is what we want from them. If we didn't want something, then there would be no problem with another person's bad behavior. The task is to see that we have lived unconsciously from a nature that rejects anything that doesn't meet its approval.
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Why do I stay in a bad relationship with someone who gaslights me? We all want to know when to let go of a love relationship that is toxic. Guy Finley answers what is going on "within us" when we can't let go and stay involved in a bad relationship.
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In this question and answer session, Guy talks about how the first thing we must realize about any toxic relationship is that we are at least one-half of the equation, and that we refuse to let go of the relationship because there is something that we want from it.
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In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains how healing from something bad that happened to us in the past begins with observing and letting go of the part of us that finds a peculiar thrill in reliving the event.
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When we look out at the world and don't like what we see, is it really the world we see that is making us sick? Or is the sickness we see in the world the result of the same old reactions that a hundred million human beings have had a hundred million times? The sickness is in this consciousness that has made the world into what it is.
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When we apply a label such as "passive aggressive" to someone who bothers us, we cease to have direct contact with that person and instead meet them only through that idea, which prevents any kind of learning. We must work instead to allow the revelation of the nature that has been disturbed within us so we can see the fear that hides beneath it.
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In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how all true teachings exist to help us reveal and transcend the present state of darkness that we live in, not to punish us for it.
You have within you something that is quite capable of knowing what is good for you and what is not. And although presently it is necessary that you learn new knowledge and find a true source of guidance, ultimately you do not need books or teachers to know from yourself what is true about you. There is something that lives within you that will never harm itself or another human being. When y...
In our daily lives--within our small worlds from which we look out presently--we seem to come into contact with people who either cause us to suffer, or who do not show us the proper amount of respect. To put it bluntly, living in that small world of ours is not fun. In fact, it can be downright painful! Fortunately there does exists a world that is not just my small world, in which there is n...