Every one of us who has ever been thrust into some seemingly overpowering circumstance is more than equally empowered to understand the following: What we receive in those life moments amounts to our individual life experience... and what we experience as our individual life has to do with that level of life's possibilities that we embrace and ultimately express.
To say the same thing in different terms: Each one of our lives creates and unerringly reflects the level of our understanding or the depth of our ignorance. Now connect this fact with our God-given gift of being able to experience our own being through our ongoing awareness of it, and you can see that we are indeed as empowered to change our life experience as we're willing to assume responsibility for it.
What this tells us is that Truth isn't going to walk through our front door and say, "Listen here! You've got to get this lesson, and this is it!" That's just not the way the heart of reality works. And yet, it is. Because all along Truth has been shouting: "Wake up! Your life itself is all the reason in the world why you need to learn the life lessons right in front of you."
Into every single one of all the souls sown onto this planet is that which gives them the ability to produce from their requests what they receive. And there is no reception outside of the requests we make. So, if our heart is heavy, if we're angry, frightened, impatient, or whatever it is that we experience every day, we have requested the pain that comes with those requests we don't know we are making.
The person who does not know himself, and who accepts what his life is like without self-knowledge, receives from life what the absence of that self-knowledge requests. And there are absolutely no excuses for this ignorance. "Reasons" may abound, but there are no excuses for living in the dark. But we just don't, or more accurately, won't see ourselves.
As a quick exercise, the next time you find yourself feeling dominated by any negative state that's come into and over you, what would happen if right in the middle of that seemingly unwanted moment, you heard a voice in your head saying, "Ah, this is what I was praying for." Wouldn't that be quite a shock? And a healing one at that, because it would be the truth.
Your spiritual life requires you to learn a spiritual craft of a sort, a skill born from self-observation. So take the time needed to look into your own life. See where it is that you're like what you are because of what you are allowing to act within you. Start this very moment to become conscious of all inner states. Your consciousness of them is the request for a life that is not dominated by them, which is the same as requesting that God let you live within Him. And this request He always answers.